Questioning does not have to be about changing everything. It is about asking questions one does not usually think of asking, about not being content with assumptions, but trying to figure out the truth. The conclusion of the questioning process can very well be that one was right about oneself: I have questioned my asexuality at least once, and in the end it only confirmed my identity. 

Questioning may also not always end in clear answers. Accepting that this is all right is not easy, but it is important to do so. Sometimes it is better to acknowledge that one is confused than to try to stick to an identity which does not fit anymore. Sometimes it takes time, and finding more information, in order to figure things out. 

Questioning does not have to be merely about sexual orientation or identity - it can be about anything, like social norms for instance. I once had an Introduction to Sociology class in which the professor asked us, for our final assignment, to break a social norm in public and write a report on other people's reactions (he told us that breaking a law was not acceptable and that he declined all responsibility in case we had to face unpleasant consequences after our experiment). I like this idea. Maybe we need to do this sometimes, just to remind ourselves that there are many things we do not do even though doing them would not harm anyone, either directly or indirectly. Maybe we would discover (like my team did during our own experiment) that other people do not actually care so much when we do not follow all the social expectations. And if they do care, maybe that would be a good opportunity to tell them about questioning. 

The key point of questioning is awareness. One cannot question something if one cannot imagine another possibility. One cannot question something that has always appeared unquestionable. It is therefore very important for all minority orientations, identities, and practices to be visible, so that people know they exist and are able to include them in their list of possibilities when they try to figure out who they are. Conversely, it is useless to know about those possibilities if one does not know that everyone, including them, can (and maybe should) engage in some questioning from time to time, that things are not always certain, and that what once was one way may now be another.

Lately, I have been trying to do a bit more for asexual visibility - I did a TV interview for a documentary about women and sexuality (with another French asexy), I took part in a psychology student's research on asexuality, and I am trying to offer information on asexuality if I see someone on Twitter looking for it. In this blog at least, I will now also try to push for questioning awareness.